Monday, July 7, 2008

Wedding plans....???

I've been thinking about strange things lately - - - or really just all the time.

I have a lot of friends that are getting married, or already married. A bunch that have kids, just had kids, about to have a kid, or just got pregnant. And all of it really got me thinking about things... Although I'm sure all the girly movies I watch don't help because let's face it - everyone wants a wonderful life from the movies...

But I have thought about what I kind of want my wedding to be like. And if you know me, this is incredibly unusual for a number of reasons.
To fill some of you in - I used to be perfectly content with never getting married. I also would have never even thought about my own wedding, let alone think of ideas of how I would want it. I still can't really picture myself getting married. I'm not against it at all (I would kind of like the permanent snuggle buddy and someone to kiss anytime I want) but I just can't picture it happening. Although I have decided a couple things....

I want my entire immediate family there. I don't care what it takes to get them there, I want them there. I have some friends that actually got married while a sibling was on a mission and such. I won't do that. I may not be close with my family, but I still want them there on the day that I add another person to our family.

I have also decided that I want it completely untraditional. I don't want a reception in the church, I don't want the line, I don't want the typical things you find at a wedding reception. I want it different and something people will hopefully remember. And I'm guessing I'll probably marry the kind of guy that would agree with me.

I still haven't quite decided, but I'm thinking I'm going to go with no wedding party.... You can blame the movie '27 Dresses' on this decision. But I really don't think I want to have bridesmaids and groomsmen. I wouldn't have any idea who to have in my party anyway. I have so many different friends from different places and I definitely don't want a lot of people, if I even have any.

So - that's about the extent of any sort of wedding planning I'll ever do.
I have friends, lots of friends, that have their entire wedding picked out. Or have tons of ideas... Color, dress, theme, place, etc. I - on the other hand - have never even thought more than what I've written in this post. I figure there's no reason to plan it if I don't yet have it in my future. Oh - I probably will get married someday, but until I actually know that I'm getting married, why plan it?

If the day ever comes, I'll just have a lot of decisions to make. And we all know how great I am at decision making.... Haha!


Alice Wills Gold said...

WHAT THE HECK...we go from I'm not dating him to wedding plans overnight. Yeah, hurry and delete this before he sees.

I am with you about not wanting the traditional wedding reception...LINES are a lame tradition that I believe Mormons made up because they didn't know how to have a good time.

I didn't have any bridesmaids either, but I really wanted my wedding reception on the beach at sundown and didn't get it.

I hope you get everything you want...especially some commitment, since I know it took you so long to come to terms with that. :)

KSHammond said...

I really really didn't want my wedding in a church gym with the stupid line and all that. I ended up doing both of those. I don't regret it at all. All that really matters is the temple.

Ader Family said...

For those of you that read these comments - there is absolutely NO WEDDING in my future at all whatsoever. NO WEDDING!!!
It's just weddings in the air with all my friends so it got me thinking a slight bit - but NO WEDDING!!!!
I'm still single. So there won't be a wedding anytime soon either....

Southard Family said...

Just elope.... like us cool people... then you don't have to worry about any party at all...although, if you don't have a reception, you won't get any of the presents. LOL
also, the whole bridesmade thing... I'm thinking you should at least have me as the Matron of Honor so i can do the planning. besides i needed something to look forward to, a reason to loose 60lbs